Stop Resisting What You Don't Want
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Focusing on the things that you do not want in life, stops you from achieving the things in life that you do want. In order to stop resisting the negative you need to focus on the positive. Feed yourself and fuel the mind to stimulate the creative juices to get what you need.
You waste valuable time by giving the negative energy to the things you do not want. Resistance only creates the negative reality and you began to receive only that in which you do not want. Belief in yourself and the abilities that you have, frees you from the negative emotions connected to your disbelief.
Making things happen creates your belief and faith in yourself. Use the energy you have to attract what you do want in life. For example, let's say that you are stuck in traffic. Your resistance to the traffic is what drives you to pick the slowest lanes. The more you bring to the surface and deal with the things that you are responsible for in your life, the more belief you have in your ability to let go of the past and move on.
Address the problems or burdens that you feel have kept you back and held you down. Start being careful with your words, the power of your words becomes your reality. Speak your positive reality to the world. You will begin to see that things will start to happen in the positive and you will begin to cross out all the negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions that are unhealthy.
Practice making positive rewarding behavior modifications. Give people the opportunity to want to help by not demanding their help. Ask in a positive tone and continue to ask until you get what you desire. Think only of the positive things that have happened in your life or with your goals and disassociate yourself with the negative thoughts. Do not shove the blame on people even if you feel they deserve it. Instead, focus on getting what you want by using positive reinforcement.
Take pride in your work and in your life. Actively remember the positive and do not let your self get distracted with the negative. Clear your mind and just do it. The more success you have, the more your confidence will grow. Enrich your life by going back to your past and reassuring yourself that you have grown and moved on. You can not change the past put you can redirect your future.
Pain tells us that our beliefs will not happen. The past experiences give you negative vibes that you feel. You can change how you feel about the past. Take time to create the positive and loving side to yourself that you desperately need and desire. You are not the person you were three days ago or three years ago. It is not where you have been or what you have done that is important; it is where you are going and what you are doing in the present that matters.
Use positive affirmations and get a hold of your life. Change every negative view that you have into something positive. Say for instance, you are in the car and traffic is piled up for miles. Your first thought might be to complain and say how you hate how people move slow. Reaffirm that with the positive statement that follows: I now have the time to balance my check book or make that appointment that I have been putting off. Motivate yourself by using positive affirmations daily. The more you use them the happier you will become.
Get excited about the things in which you have the power to do and control. The only external factors that you cannot control are rain, wind, hurricanes, or any other natural disaster. You may notice that another factor which you cannot control is other people's thoughts, emotions, and actions. Take responsibility for your own. Find ways to help the people whom you find are the hardest people to get along with. Think about what that person must be feeling or what happened to the person to cause them to act, feel, think, or say what they say.
When you make the choice to focus on how you can relate to the other person, you will shift any negative thoughts or emotions that you would have other wise given in to. Make it a daily habit of shifting your thinking every time a negative thought comes to mind. Day by day things will start to get easier as you will have created a positive mental mindset.
Here's To Your Success,
Tabitha Variance
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This is a great article. But the last part about getting along with the hardest people in our lives confuses me. If we spend so much time thinking about them, does that not encourage codependency?
While I appreciate the wisdom of what you've written,you need to be aware that there are many people who suffer from depression. Being one of them, I can tell you that our ability to shift thoughts is severely compromised. I certainly hope you're not one of those heartless and insensitive law of attraction devotees who believes that depressed people cause and perpetuate their depression.
David, I hear your concern! I've dealt with depression myself and helped many people with it. What has you feel that people that Law of Attraction people are "heartless and insensitive"?
I think that we live in a culture of huge blame and shame. It goes as far back as Adam blaming Eve. So we might think that when someone suggests "we have some control over our thoughts" it feel like blame. Instead, if we look at Cognitive/Behavioral Therapy, the most popularly used therapy for depression, it suggests that thoughts lead to feeling, which lead to our actions. This was a shift from the old model that feelings just happen randomly and thoughts come from these feelings. The old model meant "we are powerless victims". CBT suggests we are not powerless. CBT works to help people learn how to use their mind and choose more empowering thoughts. It's not new-age woo woo thinking. It's science based in testing and results.
To say a person "can" chose their thoughts isn't "blaming" them. That's just our misunderstanding of a culture of blame. Instead, it means people have hope. That they aren't a result of random forces, and with education, we can learn how to chose our thoughts. I know this from experience! My thoughts were conditioned from childhood, from a very depressed parent. When we learn that it's mental conditioning, we can learn, through meditation, and other mental exercise, that we can recondition new thoughts, creating new feelings.
Luciana 3 years ago
This is amazing!